In the past year and a half we have relocated, added to our family, lived through a prospective change in our aging parent's living situation, and had a son go through possibly the worst year of his life.
Of course, all of this goes on with the same pressures of the every day. It is hard to quantify or even realize how this affects us as individuals and couples. You can feel it in the moment but you cannot put your finger on what the effects are even as they settle into your subconscious mind.
And as far as the outside World is concerned you are functioning as normal and appear to be the same people you have always been. Part of this facade is due to our ever changing World and how we communicate with each other. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn and YouTube create a brand you might say of what we want to portray to the Online World.
We play games with each other, we share photos and post experiences that make up our Brand. Some of those Brands are positive and some, well, not so positive. We block people's feeds that just seem too perfect or, alternatively, cumbersome for our minds to absorb. Although we are fascinated to peer into our Online friend's lives we really are not involved in their lives.
Rarely, if ever, do we pick up the phone and actually talk to someone. This eliminates hearing what is in their voices and actually connecting on a level where you may pick up on nuances or tones that enable us as human beings to empathize and share on a level that may somehow piece together something that helps one or the other.
Even greater than that is the diminishing of the "Face to Face" meetings. Our valuable time is spent searching for connections "online".
This disconnect is not just between friends and family. It is within the structure of the family circle. We email our children to provide family news, we text our spouses to pick things up at the store and even text our children to come up for dinner. We Skype family from a distance making connections that seem so marvelous in this age but the hidden danger is the loss of the actual benefit of spending time with those we love. The games that produce giggles and fun, bantering and cajoling are becoming less and less of what we do as entertainment.
It does not mean that the love of family and friends is not there.....it is.....and will always be but it has produced a shift in our connections within the family itself. It is somewhat like the shift from photographs to photos online. Somewhat intangible in some sense but there on the other hand. We are losing the touch and feel of life.
I guess what this really means to me is that I, personally, am missing that connection. We all feel isolated and alone at some point and this technological World we live in that is helping us in so many fabulous ways is also leading us into a dangerous age of loneliness and discontent.
So much for this "Brand" of life!